Let me start by confessing that I LOVE fashion! Dressing to impress, to flatter and simply to look good is somehow empowering. You have confidence when people are looking at you and draw all the attention you want. Often times, though, the attention you’re drawing isn’t what you might think. Here are a few examples:
Who’s attention do you think you’re grabbing the most? Men or women? Sit in a public place with frequent traffic and watch who’s eyes double-take the most. You’ll notice more women than men are drawn to the lady dressed to impress.
If more women are gazing at you than men, what does that say? We as women are intimidating. Ever wanted to be friends the pretty girl in school but never introduced yourself because she seemed so perfect? Guys aren’t afraid of beauty, they admire it.
Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised. Proverbs 31:30. Another translations describes beauty as evaporation. Looking hot will eventually turn into steam one day.
Rapidly changing fashion trends for each year seem to be less material for more money. Finding modest, yet fashionable outfits can be challenging. My generation dresses as though less is more (Charmin). Being conservative is considered “old fashion”. As if showing more cleavage and thigh makes you more of a woman.
“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” I Peter 3: 3-4
Your inner self. Your soul. I know your hair is colored and curled, your eyeliner and eyebrows are bold and your lipstick is bright, but hows your soul? You can’t mask your soul like you do your face with make-up and your body with clothes. The inside you is starving from little to no prayer time and bible reading while you feed the outside you with Sephora and mani/pedi’s.
As I continue to grow and mature, so does my fashion taste. From crop-tops and short-shorts to longer shirts covering my bottom and higher necklines covering my chest. Although, I am not perfect. I’ve used going out with friends or my husband and even church as my runway. A place where people come for healing and fellowship -a runaway from this world. How many people are afraid to approach me because I seem to have it all together on the outside? Really, I’m just as messed up and searching as the next person.
So, ladies, you are worth more than a blunt cut and a wrist full of Alex & Ani’s (I confess to having 6, but they were gifts!). God designed you in His image and likeness. You carry Jesus uniquely and powerfully. Bring who God is through your submissive obedience, nurturing and feminine characteristic’s and gentle and quiet spirit. Don’t be intimidated by another woman’s beauty. After all, when your beauty evaporates into steam one day from being so hot, your inner self will be even more beautiful from taking care of your soul and fearing the Lord.